Indalo yonke yezocansi ibanzi kakhulu kwaye, nangona siseninzi ekufuneka sifunde, iyaziwa ngakumbi njengoko ixesha lihamba, njengoko siqhubela phambili ekwamkeleni inkululeko yesondo kwaye siqale ukuphila ngokuhambelana nayo. Kukho iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokuziqhelanisa nesondo ezisuka kwi-heterosexuality, ukuya kwi-homosexuality, i-asexuality, i-bisexuality kwaye, ngoku, ukungazithembi kungena emfanekisweni. Kodwa,yintoni ukulahla? Mhlawumbi xa ufunda eli nqaku ude ube namathandabuzo malunga nokuba wena ngokwakho ungumntu onesini.
Abantu abaninzi bafumana iinkcukacha malunga neziqu zabo, malunga nendlela abaziva ngayo, baphonononge kwaye baphile imiba yeemvakalelo neyesondo ngendlela enokuthi yahluke kwindlela uninzi lwenze ngayo kodwa, nangayiphi na imeko, iyasebenza njengabanye.
Kweli nqaku siza kuchaza yintoni ukulahla, iimpawu ezichaza kwaye ziyahlula ngokubhekiselele kwezinye iziqhelaniso kunye nokuba zeziphi iingxaki ezinokujamelana nazo abantu abane-demisexual.
Uqhelaniso lwezesondo oluphantse lungaziwa: ubuni
Sihlala sisiva malunga nobufanasini, ubufanasini kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, ubufanasini. Ngamanye amaxesha siva iincoko malunga nolunye uqhelaniso olunqabileyo oluphinda lungabonakali: ukungazithembi okanye abo bantu baziva benomdla kwisondo. Kwaye ngoku, ubudoda ligama elitsha oya kuthi ngokuqinisekileyo uqale ukuliva kakhulu kwaye, emva kokufunda le post, uya kuyazi ukuba lithetha ukuthini.
Kubantu abanesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo, i uqhagamshelo lweemvakalelo okanye unxibelelwano ngokweemvakalelo nomntu kubalulekile ukuze kuvele umtsalane ngokwesondo. Lumka, asithethi ngothando, kodwa malunga nomtsalane wesini. Oku kuthetha ukuba kwi-demisexuals akuyi kuze kubekho ukutyumza, akuyi kubakho uthando ekuqaleni kokubona, kwaye akunakwenzeka ukuba "apha ndikubambe, apha ndikubulala", okuqhelekileyo kumaxesha ethu. Akukho nto imbi okanye intle kule nto, kwaye ingumkhwa ofana nayo nayiphi na enye, ingengcono okanye imbi, nangona inazo ezinye “eziluncedo” kunye “nobubi”, kuxhomekeke kwindlela oyijonga ngayo, njengayo yonke into.
Imfuno yekhonkco yangaphambili
Khawufane ucinge ukuya kwiklabhu kunye nabahlobo bakho kwaye udibane neqela lamantombazana kunye namakhwenkwe. Kulutsha lwanamhlanje, ayiqhelekanga into yokuba kwangobo busuku bunye sele beqhatha omnye nomnye kwaye beneminqweno yokuthatha omnye wabantu abasuka kwiqela elisandula kudibana bamsa egadini. Oku kuya kuba yinto engathandekiyo kumntu osweleyo, kuba abanawo loo mtsalane. Ukuze umnqweno wesini uzalwe, umanyano lweemvakalelo lumele lube luqale luqale phakathi kwabo babini.
Into efana nengcamango yokuba ngaphambi kokuba bafikelele into engakumbi, kwanokuba kukungquzulana nje, kufuneka babe ngabahlobo. Kodwa ngokwahlukileyo ukuba le mfuno yebhondi yangaphambili ayisosizathu okanye ukwala ukuba neentlobano zesini nomnye umntu akubangelwa kukuthozama okanye ucalucalulo lokuziphatha, kodwa ngenxa yokuba imizimba yabo nengqondo yabo ayinamava okwenene nakweyiphi na inkanuko yesini ekuqaleni kokubona. . .
Siyazi ukuba oku ayisiyiyo eyona nto ixhaphakileyo kwaye, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ngokukhawuleza okanye ngokucotha kangakanani ngamnye ufuna ukuthatha ubudlelwane bakhe kwinqanaba elilandelayo, kuyindalo ukuba siziva sinomtsalane ngokwesondo kumntu wasemzini, kuba ngokwasemzimbeni okanye umgangatho othile. ichwechwela kwi-subconscious yethu, inomtsalane kuthi, ngamandla amakhulu okanye amancinci. Abantu abathandana besini esinye abakhe bafikelwe yile nto.
Ixesha yimali, kubantu abasweleyo
Ixesha yimali kodwa hayi kuba lidlula ngokukhawuleza, ngokuchaseneyo noko. Abantu abanesini esingafaniyo baya kufuneka bahambe kancinci, bade bamazi umntu ngokwaneleyo ukuze kuvele ukuthembana kunye nobuhlobo okanye ukuhambelana. Ke ewe, baya kuba nakho ukuziva benomtsalane ngokwasemzimbeni, umnqweno wesini kwaye baphile ngokwesini ngokupheleleyo, njengabanye.
Masingabhidanisi i-demisexual ne-asexual
I-Demisexuals kudala ibhidaniswa nama-asexuals, kodwa ayifani. Njengoko sele sichazile, Abantu abathandana nesini bayawuva umnqweno wesini, kodwa lo uzelwe xa sele unento yokwenza nomnye umntu.
Kuya kufuneka kwakhona icaciswe into yokuba abantu abathandana nesini esinye banokuziva betsaleleka kubantu besini esinye okanye esinye, oko kukuthi, inokwenzeka phakathi kwabantu abathandana besini esifanayo naphakathi kwabantu be-hetero ngaphandle kokwahlula. Unokuba yi-hetero demisexual, i-homo demisexual okanye i-bisexual demisexual.
Indlela yokujongana nenyaniso yokuba ndine-demisexual
Ukuba ufumanise ukuba ulala ngesondo, mhlawumbi unamathandabuzo kunye neenkxalabo okanye wazi umntu ohamba kule nkqubo kwaye uziva elahlekile. Cacisa ukuba ukulahla isini kwamkelekile kwaye akukho mntu kufuneka aphazamise indlela yakho yokuziva, ukuziva, kunye nokuba nemincili.
Enyanisweni, awudingi ukuchazela nabani na malunga nendlela ophila ngayo ubomi bakho obusondeleyo kwaye ukhululekile ukuba ube neentlobano zesini nanini na xa uziva uthanda, ukuba uziva uthanda, okanye awuyi kuba nayo, ukuba awuziva. njengokuyenza.
Kukho ucalucalulo oluninzi kunye neengcinga zangaphambili malunga nokuba kulungile ukuphulukana nobuntombi bakho kwangoko okanye kungcono ukwenze kade, nokuba kuyacetyiswa ukuba uzigcine unyulu kude kube ngumtshato okanye ukuba ubudlelwane babucala phakathi kwabantu bufanele bube njani. Nangona kunjalo, nguwe kuphela ozazi kakuhle kwaye zithini iimfuno zakho. Ungavumeli nabani na ukuba akuqinisekise ngayo nayiphi na enye into.
yabelana ngesondo Kulungile, kodwa ukungabi nayo, nayo. Ukwabelana ngesondo ngothando kwamkelekile, njengesondo ngaphandle kothando lokuzonwabisa okucocekileyo. Ukutyumza kunye nothando ekuqaleni kokubona kunokuba ngumlingo, kodwa kunjalo ukubona ukuzalwa konxibelelwano olusondeleyo kunye nokuziva ukuba umnqweno wesondo uzalwe njani kancinci kancinci.
Akukho mntu ufanele ukuseta izingqisho zakho, nguwe kuphela. Akukho mntu unelungelo lokugweba indlela oziva ngayo, indlela ovuka ngayo okanye uyayenza okanye awuyenzi. Kungenxa yokuba ufuna ngaloo ndlela kufuneka uchaze indlela i-libido yakho isebenza ngayo. Ngenxa yokuba ubulili, njengobudlelwane bothando, kukukhathaza kuphela.
Ngoku uyazi kancinci yintoni ukulahla kwaye sikhuthaza ukuba ukwenze kwaziwe, wabelane ngeli nqaku ukuba ufumene umdla kwaye wenze kubonakale ngakumbi ukuba ukuxhatshazwa kwesondo kuyinto eqhelekileyo, imihla ngemihla kwaye intle.