Ngubani ongcono kunomntu oqeqeshiweyo kunye nowasetyhini ukuba asicebise malunga nendlela yokwenza kunye nesini esahlukileyo? UPilar Cristobal, umbhali wamaphephandaba Imizuzu ye20, inika uthotho lweengcebiso kumanqaku ayo amaninzi ajolise kumadoda afuna ukuba nomtsalane ngakumbi kwaye aphumelele ekuthandeni. Apha sikuzisa ezinye zezona ngongoma zibalulekileyo ezabelana nge-sexologist.
Ukuzola kunye nobukrelekrele: izitshixo zokuphumelela ukuthandana
- Hlala uphole. Kubalulekile ukunqanda ukubonakala ngathi unovalo, ungakhuselekanga okanye ungazinzanga ngokweemvakalelo. Ukuba ungomnye wabo bathanda ukugqabhuka kweemvakalelo ezimbi, zama ukukulawula oku xa uphuma okokuqala. Nokuba uyamthanda ngokwenene umntu okanye hayi, isimo sengqondo ezolileyo kusoloko kuphucula amava umhla.
- Ubukrelekrele bunomtsalane. Ayikokuba krelekrele, kodwa ukuba nolwazi ngemicimbi yangoku, ukufunda amaphephandaba okanye ukwazi okwenzekayo ehlabathini kunokukunceda ubonakale ukrelekrele, nokuba awuziboni unolwazi oluphangaleleyo. Abantu abaninzi bathanda ukuba nencoko ebangel’ umdla.
- Yinyamekele impilo yakho. Ukukhalaza malunga nezigulo okanye izifo ngexesha lokuqeshwa akuthandeki. Impilo yenye yezinto eziphambili ezinxibelelana ngokungazi nombono wemfuza elungileyo. Indoda esempilweni nenembono entle ivelisa umfanekiso ochumileyo nothembekileyo.
- Ukuzinza ngokweemvakalelo. Ngoxa iinguqulelo ezingokweemvakalelo zisenokungaphepheki, ukugcina isimo sengqondo esizolileyo nesizinzileyo kubalulekile. Kungokwemvelo ukuba neeyantlukwano, kodwa ukungquzulana okungaqwalaselwanga kunokonakalisa nolona nxibelelwano lulungileyo.
Musa ukuyigxeka indlela yakhe yokwenza izinto
Enye yezona mpazamo zixhaphakileyo ezenziwa ngamadoda kumhla ngokungangqalanga okanye ngokuchubekileyo zigxeka ukuziphatha komnye umntu. Khumbula ukuba, into esiyijongayo sonke emntwini kukusinika umfanekiso-ngqondweni omhle ngathi, yaye akukho mntu ufuna ukuba kunye nomntu omenza azive engaphantsi okanye osoloko emgxeka.
- Kuphephe ukwenza izigqibo. Ukuba kukho into malunga nayo ongayithandiyo, akukho mfuneko yokuba uyibonise ngoko nangoko. Imihla yokuqala ayiloxesha lokwenza izigwebo.
- yenza imibuzo. Ukuba ufuna ukuyihambisa ngokufihlakeleyo incoko kwinto engathandekiyo, ubuchule obusebenzayo kukubuyisela umbuzo okanye ubuze nje ukuba "kutheni utsho njalo?"
- Lixabise ixesha. Ukuqonda ukuba nobabini nizama ukuba ngoyena ubalaseleyo kunceda ukuphepha ukugxekwa ngokungeyomfuneko kwaye kuququzelele unxibelelwano olungcono.
Ukubaluleka kokubonakala kunye nokucoceka okulungileyo
Xa sithetha ngenkangeleko, asibhekiseli kuphela kwindlela yokunxiba, kodwa kwindibaniselwano yezinto phakathi kwazo ucoceko nesimo sengqondo esidlala indima ephambili. Uninzi lwabasetyhini bayayixabisa indoda enyamekela umzimba wayo kunye nentetho yobuqu.
- Ucoceko lomntu. Indoda ezinyamekelayo, echitha ixesha ekucocekeni kwayo kwaye ebonakala icocekile kwaye icocekile, ithumela umyalezo ocacileyo wokuzixabisa kunye nokhuseleko.
- Impahla ibalulekile. Nangona akunyanzelekanga ukuba unxibe, iimpahla ezicocekileyo nezinencasa zihlala zongeza amanqaku xa kuziwa ekwenzeni umbono olungileyo. Isimbo somntu sinokubonakalisa ukuba ungubani.
- Isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo kunye noburharha. Ukongeza kumzimba omhle, uburharha nokuzithemba zizinto ezinokukwenza ugqame.
Iinkcukacha ezincinci zenza umehluko
Amancinci amancinci abonisa ingqalelo kunye nenkathalo yenza umahluko omkhulu kumhla. Izijekulo ezifihlakeleyo, njengokubrasha ngobunono isitshixo seenwele zakhe okanye ukumnceda ngedyasi yakhe, ayibonisi nje imbeko, kodwa inokudala unxibelelwano olunzulu.
- Innocent touchs ezincinci. Ukubrasha iingalo ngobunono ngelixa uthetha okanye ubambe umqolo xa ungena egumbini kunokudala unxibelelwano olukhawulezileyo. Khumbula nje ukuba ungangeni kwindawo yabo yobuqu kakhulu.
- Cela uncedo lwakho ngaphambi kokuba alucele. Ukuba ufuna ukumvulela ucango okanye umfumanele into ethile, yenze ngaphambi kokuba acele. Ukumamela ezi nkcukacha kuhlala kwamkelekile.
- izipho ezingalindelekanga. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ibe yinto ebiza imali eninzi; Nokuba neenkcukacha ezilula njengentyatyambo okanye isipho esincinci singenza umehluko omkhulu.
Qaphela intshukumo yomzimba
Ulwimi lwethu lomzimba lunxibelelana ngakumbi kunokuba sicinga. Ngexesha lomhla, ukugcina isimo esivulekileyo nesikhululekileyo kubalulekile ekuboniseni ukuzithemba kunye nokuvelisa intuthuzelo komnye umntu.
- Musa ukuwela iingalo okanye imilenze yakho. Ezi ntshukumo zinokudlulisela umyalezo wokuba uvaliwe ngokweemvakalelo okanye uyazikhusela.
- Yiya phambili kancinci. Esi senzo, xa sisenziwa ngobuchule, sibonisa umdla kwincoko.
- Lumkela izijekulo ungekho zingqondweni. Izenzo ezinjengokubetha iminwe yakho okanye ukujonga rhoqo ifowuni yakho kunokunxibelelana nokungabikho komdla.
Menze azive eqondwa
Enye yezinto ezikhangayo kakhulu kumfazi kukuziva ngathi uyaviwa kwaye uyaqondwa, ngaphandle kokufuna ukumxelela ngokucacileyo. Unxibelelwano olungasebenzisi magama lungundoqo apha, njengoko izijekulo ezincinci zinokuthetha kakhulu.
- Xelisa izimbo zomzimba zabo. Ukuba uthatha iglasi ngexesha elinye naye okanye unqwala kancinci xa ekwenza oko, uya kube unxibelelana ungekho zingqondweni ukuba ukwiphepha elinye.
- Phendula kwiimvakalelo zakho. Ukuba ubonakalisa ulangazelelo lwento ethile, musa ukungakhathali. Phendula kwaye ubonise umdla.
Ekupheleni kosuku, ezi ngcebiso zijolise ekudaleni uxhulumaniso oluyinyani ngakumbi, apho nobabini unokuziva ukhululekile kwaye uqondwe. Nangona kubalulekile ukuba ngokwethu, ukuthatha ezinye zezi zitshixo kwi-akhawunti unokuphinda-phinda yethu ukuthandana amathuba.