Ihlabathi lothando, isondo kunye nokuhenda zintsonkothile kwaye ziyimfihlakalo, zizele zizinto ezintsonkothileyo esihlala singakwazi ukuziqonda. Emazantsi eentliziyo zethu, sonke sinaye umntu onokuba sisilukuhli, nokuba kunzima kuthi ukuyiqonda loo nkalo yobuntu bethu, kodwa ngubani othanda ukuziva enomtsalane aze abe yinto enqwenelwa ngomnye umntu? Ityala bekuya kufuneka lihlalutywe, kodwa ngokwemigaqo jikelele sinokuqinisekisa ukuba akukho mntu ukrakrayo malunga neswiti, okanye uziva ngathi yiswiti enqwenelwa ukutyiwa ngabanye abantu. Akukho mntu ukhululekileyo kule ego, okanye ekuziveni iimpembelelo zesini kwabanye abantu. Akunjalo nabantu abatshatileyo. Ngaba wakha wazibuza indlela yokwazi ukuba umfazi otshatileyo uyakuthanda? Ngaba uyakrokra ukuba kukho umntu ophuphayo ngokufihlakeleyo ngawe? Makhe sifumanise.
Kuba lumka, ngenxa yokuba ibhinqa litshatile akuthethi ukuba akanalo umbono kunye namahomoni, ukongeza kuloo seti yonke yeenguqu zangaphakathi ezenzeka ngokwemvelo ngokupheleleyo ngaphakathi kwethu kwaye zivelise amabhabhathane ajikeleza isisu, isifuba nentloko. Kambe ke, amabhinqa atshatileyo aziva etsaleleka yaye eneemvakalelo zesini kumntu wesithathu, ngaba oku kubi? Kwenzeka ntoni ngaloo mnqweno kwaye nokuba uthatha isigqibo sokukhulula ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo okanye hayi enye ibali.
Imikhondo yokwazi ukuba umfazi otshatileyo uyakuthanda
Abafazi abatshatileyo, njengamadoda atshatileyo, yabona, baqonde, bazive kwaye baphuphe. Nangona kungathethi nangayiphi na indlela ukuba bafanele bakhulule impambano yabo baze banikezele kwisilingo seminqweno yabo. Kuya kubakho abafazi abakwenzayo kunye nabanye abangakwenziyo, kuba ukuziva umtsalane okanye ukuthanda umntu akuthethi ukuba sicinga ngokuthatha inyathelo eliya phambili. Umtsalane yinto enye kwaye ukungathembeki kuyenye.
ukuba fumanisa ukuba umfazi otshatileyo uyakuthanda na Unokujonga ukuba uthotho lwemiqondiso luyenzeka. Ngamanye amaxesha, kuxhomekeke kwinjongo yowesifazane, uya kutyhila umnqweno wakhe kuwe. Kodwa ukuba ibhinqa lineentloni okanye likhetha ukuzifihla iimvakalelo zalo, liya kulumka ngakumbi. Nangona kunjalo, kuya kubakho imikhondo enikezela ngayo. Nikela ingqalelo ngenyameko.
Ithathele ingqalelo kakhulu inkangeleko
Xa sithanda umntu, enoba siyathanda okanye asithandi, amehlo ethu aya kumka. Kufuneka ube namandla amaninzi ukuze ungaweli kwi-vice ye umdlalo wokukhangela. Okokuqala, kuba ukujonga umntu esimthandayo ngumsebenzi owanelisayo nomnandi kakhulu wokuzonwabisa. Kwaye okwesibini, ngenxa yokuba i-ego yethu isiqhubela ekubeni sifune ukuvunywa kwaye sikhangele ukuba siyabuyiselwa na. Nokuba asifuni kufumana nto kuloo mntu, kukho into engaphakathi kuthi ebangela ukuba singene emdlalweni.
ewe ewe umfazi otshatileyo uyakuthanda, akanakukuphepha ukukujonga kangangoko anako. Ziya kuphosa iliso elibukhali okanye elicacileyo, ngokuthe ngqo okanye ngokungangqalanga, kuxhomekeka kumongo nokuba umyeni ukufuphi okanye akakho.
Ulwimi lomzimba alunakufihlwa
Singaxoka ngamagama, sizifihle phantsi kwe-makeup okanye sigqume amehlo ethu ngeendondo zelanga, kodwa ulwimi lomzimba luzalwa kwaye lulawulwa yi-subconscious yethu. Awukwazi ukwenza umgunyathi okanye ucinezele isijekulo. Kuya kufuneka usebenze kakhulu kulwimi lomzimba ukukhohlisa ingcali.
Qaphela ukuba umfazi uchukumisa iinwele zakhe kakhulu xa ephambi kwakho, ukuba ujonge izinto ezikufutshane nawe, okanye uzama ukusondela kuwe ngokufihlakeleyo phantsi kwaso nasiphi na isizathu.
Enye into enomdla ngolwimi lomzimba kukuba uhlala kufutshane nawe okanye, nokuba ukude, uhambisa iinyawo zakhe kwicala lakho.
Ngawe ubonakala eyahlukileyo
Ukuba umntu obhinqileyo u-extroverted kwaye ubonakala eneentloni malunga nawe okanye ngokuphambene, unentloni kwaye xa ephambi kwakho ubonakala evula ngakumbi, kungenxa yokuba uzama ukwenza ukuba ubone umfanekiso wakhe ongengowaqhelekileyo. Ufuna ukukothusa.
Mhlawumbi ukwintlanganiso kwaye uyavuma kuwe indlela adikwe ngayo kwaye angathanda ukuya kwindawo emnandi okanye eyonwabisayo. Ngaphantsi, le nkcazo elula, emsulwa kwaye enesibindi, ifihla ebunzulwini beengcamango zakhe umnqweno wokukuvuselela kwaye uzame inhlanhla yakhe ukuze ubone ukuba uya kuthatha ingcebiso kwaye ucebise isicwangciso sabucala ngakumbi.
Wazi yonke into ngawe
Musa ukoyika, kodwa xa umfazi enomdla endodeni uyayiphanda, ayilandele, ayimpimpi kwaye ingumlandeli wayo omkhulu kunye nomgxeki wayo. Okanye umkhuseli wakhe. Nokuba zombini. Iinethiwekhi zentlalo namhlanje zisivumela ukuba senze umsebenzi wobuntlola ngaphandle kwemigudu emikhulu. Lo mfazi akayi kuba nako ukumelana nesilingo sokukulandela kwiintanethi zakho zentlalo kwaye, ukuba akanazintloni, uya kuthanda yonke into. Ndingade ndiphawule kuwe. Okanye mhlawumbi akanxibelelani nawe kuba ekhetha ukuqonda, kodwa uya kuqaphela yonke into eyenzekayo ebomini bakho. Kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, bonke ubudlelwane bakho.
Uyakukhusela okanye angakukhusela
Kuxhomekeka emfazini, kuyakubakho lowo uzakuvele akukhusele xa ujongene nohlaselo okanye ozakuphazanyiswa koko azive engonwabanga kuba akathandi abantu bathethe kakubi ngawe kodwa akanaso isibindi. ukuza kunithethelela. Uya kubandezeleka kolu hlaselo, kuba uyakuthanda.
Ukuziphatha okuchaseneyo
Uyaqaphela ukuba lo mfazi ufana nentsimbi yenkomo? Namhlanje uthetha nawe, ngomso akakuhoyi, ebekuhoyile kwaye ngoku uyaphepha, uthetha nawe ngendlela enye kwaye ngequbuliso uyasikwa. Ngaba ezi zimo zengqondo zivakala ziqhelekile kuwe? Oku kuziphatha kwe-bipolar akubangelwa kukuphazamiseka kwengqondo, kodwa kunokubangelwa kukudandatheka kokuziva okuthile kuwe kodwa ukwazi ukuba, ngenxa yaso nasiphi na isizathu, (kule meko ngenxa yokuba etshatile), eyakho ayinakuba njalo. ngoko akuvumelekanga ukuzama ukuncwasa nawe.
Uyafuna, uyakonwabela ukudlala, kodwa uyoyika aze ahlehle xa ebona ukuba uye wahamba kakhulu ngokokuqonda kwakhe. I izinto eziphikisanayo zomfazi otshate nendoda zibonisa ukuba uyakuthanda.
Unokwenza ngale ndlela fumanisa ukuba umfazi otshatileyo uyakuthanda na. Siyishiya apha. Isahluko esilandelayo seli bali okanye isiphumo, ubhala.