Kwahlala kuthiwa icandelo lesibini alizange libe lihle, kodwa kwakhona akukho mbini ngaphandle kwesithathu okanye ukuba kukho amatye apho kungenakuphepheka ukuba singakhubeki kwakhona okwesibini, okwesithathu okanye nangona kunjalo amaxesha amaninzi angena endleleni yethu. Mhlawumbi baninzi abantu abangade bacinge ngokubuyelana nomntu owayethandana naye, kodwa abanye baya kukulungela ukubuyela umva ngexesha kwaye babe nethuba kwakhona. Ngaphezu koko, amava akunika ubulumko nethuba lokwenza izinto bhetele. Ngaba ungomnye wabo bangayiboniyo le nto yenzekayo njengento embi? Kulungile Ukuba ufuna ukubuyelana ne ex yakho, sukuyenza le nto..
Kukho abambalwa, kodwa abambalwa, izibini ezithi, emva kweminyaka, zibuyelane kwaye ewe, ziyakwazi ukuphila "kunye naphakade", malunga namabali kunye neenoveli ezinesiphelo esimnandi zithetha kakhulu. Kwaye kutheni kungenjalo? Ukuba ekugqibeleni ezi zifundo ziyilwe ngabantu kwaye sinomzekelo oomakhulu nootatomkhulu bethu nabazali bethu abasinika umzekelo wokuba akukho miqobo inokunqanda uthando oluyinyani.
Ukuba ungomnye wabo bangaluvaliyo ucango buyelana ne ex yakho. Okanye nokuba akunjalo ngoku, kodwa uyazi ukuba ubomi buthatha amaxesha amaninzi, ingcebiso yethu yileyo musani ukuyenza le nto.
Andizowasela la manzi?
Ubomi buyatshintshatshintsha kwaye buthanda ukudlala ngathi. Ngoko ke, abo banamava amancinci kubugcisa bokuphila (qaphela ukuba asithethi kuphela ngothando), bayazi ukuba iingcango akufanele zivaliwe naphi na. Kuba awusoze wazi ukuba unokunxanwa nini kwaye kuya kufuneka usele kwaloo manzi uwalayo ngokugqibeleleyo namhlanje.
Kukwayinyani ukuba ngamanye amaxesha sidibana nomntu obonakala ngathi ukhethekile kuthi, okanye kukho into ngabo ethi "ewe", okanye "hayi", kodwa izehlo zobomi zenza ukuba umntu ngamnye azifumane kwindawo ethile. ihlabathi indlela eyahlukileyo. Ubuqu, usapho kunye neemvakalelo, iimeko zengqondo okanye ubudala bomntu. Ixesha lihamba kwaye linoxanduva lokusibumba, ngamanye amaxesha sibe ngcono kwaye ngamanye amaxesha hayi kakhulu.
Kodwa kuyenzeka ukuba ngenye imini, udibana nelaa ex yakudala, oyifumana inomtsalane ngakumbi namhlanje kunoko, ngenqaku lokuqola elibenza bangabinakunqandwa. Mhlawumbi ngulaa mntu utshintshileyo, okanye mhlawumbi ibinguwe. Okanye, kusenokwenzeka ukuba nobabini nahluke ngokupheleleyo kwindlela enaniyiyo ngoko. Ngoku uphatha oobhaka, okanye ufunde ukuzikhupha endleleni. Kwaye isibali-xesha seemvakalelo sibonakala sisetelwe kwakhona ku-zero. Kwakhona.
Ngaba ivakala iqhelekile kuwe? Ayisiyo kuphela iyelenqe lezinye izihloko eziyimpumelelo ze-cinema yothando kodwa ubomi ngokwabo obubambeleyo kunye nokubhala amabali ukuba isikrini singakwazi ukwenza kwakhona. Kubonakala ukubaxwa, kodwa akunjalo. Ngeso sizathu kwaye ngenxa yokuba awukwazi ukuba intliziyo yakho iya kubuya nini ukubetha okokuqala xa ubona uthando lwakho olukhulu, xolisa umsindo wakho, sebenzisa intloko yakho kwaye uziphathe xa uqhawula ubudlelwane.
Ungaze wenze le ex yakho
Amathuba esibini enziwa ukuba enze njengoko efundile kwiimpazamo kwaye asebenzise ithuba lokukhula kwamava. Ngoko ukuba ubuyile naye, lixesha lokuba wenze ubudlelwane busebenze. Ukufezekisa impumelelo kunye neqabane lakho kwaye uqinisekise ukuba eli xesha lelokugqibela kwaye unokuba nomona weqela lakho labahlobo, ugweme ezi ziphatha. Yena okanye ebekuthembile, ungamqhathi!
Zahlukanise kuye wonke umntu nayo yonke into
Yakha ubudlelwane kunye neqabane lakho kwaye ukuba nesithuba sababini kulungile, kodwa akunakuzivalela ngokupheleleyo kwihlabathi langaphandle. Kuba sikwafunda nakwabanye kwaye, ngamanye amaxesha, ngokwembono yethu izinto zikhangeleka ngokwahlukileyo. Kuyakhuthaza ukuba nayo usapho kunye nabahlobo abathembekileyo Nokuba une izibini psychotherapist, ukusikhokela xa soyisa imiqobo.
Yilumkele imibingelelo!
Xa umthanda umntu ufuna afezekise amaphupha akhe kwaye afezekise iinjongo zakhe. Ulonwabo lwabo lulonwabo lwakho. Kodwa ke nawe sukubuchitha ubomi bakho usenza idini, kuba liza kufika ixesha apho uthando lubanda okanye ludikidiki, uphele udiniwe kukuqhubeka usenza idini, ude ugqibe ukuphosa apha ebusweni bomntu. .
Ubudlelwane babini kwaye omabini amalungu esi sibini kufuneka axhasane. Musa ukupha kwaye unike ngaphandle kokufumana, kwaye ungalindeli ukufumana nokwamkela ngaphandle komzamo omncinci kwicala lakho.
Iingxaki azikho kuwe (okanye owakho wangaphambili)
Amaxesha amaninzi senza impazamo yokungabaxeleli abanye ngeengxaki zethu size sizame ukuzicombulula ngokwethu. Kuyaqondakala ukuba awufuni ukunika iqabane lakho naziphi na iinkxalabo ngakumbi, ngakumbi kuba ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuziqonda iingxaki asele enazo umntu kubomi bakhe bemihla ngemihla. Noko ke, ngokuqinisekileyo ungathanda ukuba akuxelele iingxaki zakhe aze uzive eluncedo ngokumnceda. Ewe, naye loo mntu, ngoko ke zityand’ igila kuye.
Ukongeza, uya kuqaphela ukuziphatha okungaqhelekanga ngaphandle kokwazi ukuba kutheni, ukuba iinkxalabo zakho zinkulu kwaye oku kunokuchaphazela ubudlelwane.
Musa ukuzisa iingxaki zangaphandle endlwini
Bambalwa abantu abakwaziyo ukuqhawula unxibelelwano xa besekhaya kwaye bashiye iingxaki zangaphandle emnyango. Nceda uyenze! Iya kuba sempilweni kuwe nakwiqabane lakho. Ukuba ufika ekhaya kunye nokukhathazeka kwakho emsebenzini okanye ukuba unento okanye umntu ovela ngaphandle, iqabane lakho liya kugqiba ukuhlawula iziphumo ngaphandle kwesiphoso sazo. Kungenxa yokuba eliqabane lakho akuthethi ukuba kufuneka ahlawule ngenxa yesimo sakho sengqondo esibi, okanye ngenxa yoxinzelelo kunye nokukhathazeka kwakho.
Ukuba ufuna ukubuyelana ne ex yakho, sukuyenza le nto. kuba ngoko ubudlelwane bakho buya kugwetyelwa ukungaphumeleli kwakhona. Kwaye lihlazo. Ebomini siyavela kwaye indaleko ifuna ukuba sifunde into esiyenzileyo engalunganga, ukuze senze izinto ngcono ukusukela ngoku ukuya phambili. Yiba nombulelo ngeli thuba ubomi bukunike lona kwaye ulisebenzise.